Can you feel disappointed by birth?

I’ve been thinking for a while about how to word this one…

I know one thing that holds people back from “planning” for birth is a buried deep worry that they’ll be disappointed.

They don’t want to allow themselves to think it could be a positive experience in case it doesn’t play out how they hoped.

That it’s better to go in blindly because then you can prove yourself right.

We feel psychologically safe when we can tell ourselves “told you so”.

There’s so much problematic that I can’t possibly unpack it in one post.

What I will say though:

⭐️ Hypnobirthing absolutely doesn’t guarantee you a particular type of birth. If I had that magic wand I’d wave it for every single one of you. What it does mean is that you’ll be on the front foot should your plans change along the way. Far more than just rocking up will!

⭐️ It’s not about “achieving” something. However you bring your baby into the world, and whatever support you accept doing it, you are a complete rockstar. Absolutely no question.

⭐️ There is something so empowering about knowing that you’ve prepared and done all that you could. Then it’s a case of letting go and riding the waves.

⭐️ Having these skills will massively increase your chances of having that experience you hoped for.

⭐️ I believe it’s important to visualise your birth happening in lots of different ways. Disappointment is a totally normal emotion and an understandable one. But if things change along the way, then having the understanding and tools to stay grounded and calm will help to keep more difficult emotions under control.

However you bring your baby into the world, it’s your story. No one can tell you how to feel about it.

Take the pressure of yourself and know that I’m here to support you whatever you choose for your birth and however you feel along the way.